A Different Language

Observing people's behavior (including your own), you realize that everybody behaves in the only way they know. They believe that "their way" is the only way because this is who they are, and feel they have the right to express themselves in total freedom and independence. This is certainly true, but only to a certain extent. If you realize that a habitual behavior of yours causes distress to another, especially to a loved one, you may try to reflect on the fact that, although you have the right to deal with the world according to the way you are, you also have a  choice in front of you. In fact, you can easily remain faithful to yourself by simply changing your attitude: the words you use, facial expressions, body language, the tone of your voice.... You don't need to change "who you are", but you may need to change the way you express it. This, if you care enough not to hurt somebody else's feelings.  *