Guilt is a feeling that many people experience, one time or another. Although it is understandable to feel remorse for an action that you believe caused pain to another, yet you should make some considerations before giving in to "guilt". Anthony de Mello (a Jesuit priest!) used to say that being sorry for a past mistake is positive, provided you endeavor to learn from it and decide not to repeat it. But he also said that guilt is totally negative because, while you think you hate your deed, in truth you hate yourself for having committed such an action. But hating yourself is a grave error because you are still a good person who just made a wrong decision. As no-one is perfect you, too, are entitled to mess up a bit. A famous Latin proverb says, "Errare humanum est" (= to err is human) but it also adds, "perseverare diabolicum" (= to persevere in your error is evil). Therefore... acknowledge your action, feel sorry for it, promise yourself not to do it again and then... move on!
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