You had put someone you admired, respected, cherished, loved on a sort of pedestal. Then they behaved in a way that hurt you. You realize that your previous judgement had been wrong, that such individual does not deserve your respect and affection any more. The "god", your idol, has fallen and will never resume its position on the pedestal.
What to do, in the face of such an unpleasant experience? Simply remind yourself that no-one can ever be trusted "completely". You cannot know what is inside another human being, what his (or her) deepest feelings, motivations, desires, goals are. The only attitude you can try to assume, therefore, is one of acceptance, in spite of the disappointment. Through detachment, you will avoid feeling blame and resentment, negative feelings that will harm only "you".
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