Quite often are we unable to see ourselves as we truly are or, at least, as other people perceive us. If a friend tells us that we answer a comment of theirs in a defensive or aggressive way, we immediately deny it. Why? Simply because we cannot judge our own behavior from the perspective of another person. "So, what?", you might say, "I behave the way I consider suitable, as far as I am concerned." You are certainly right but, at the same time, if you want to establish friendly relationships with your fellow human beings, you cannot ignore what they think about the way you relate to them. Being totally "yourself" may at times cause serious misunderstanding because, for several of us, one of the most difficult things to do in dealing with the others is to clearly explain our point of view - when in contrast with somebody else's - without sounding either defensive or aggressive, or both.
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