No Control

Think about your life and see how much control you have over it. I mean, "real" control, not prevarication or imposition upon others. I am referring to the capacity to influence the course of events, i.e. to make things happen by means of your will. If you examine the question carefully, you will realize that most times your power to control what happens is not as great as you think it is. You will see that most times "things" just happen and you have to deal with them according to the way they are and not according to the way you expected them to be. Disappointing? Definitely! Is there a solution? Hardly! The silver lining is that usually, if you willingly accept to "allow", in the end things find a way to move in the right direction. 

Friends

Friends are great but, if they are not available, some people feel they cannot survive. They need  to be constantly surrounded by people, they cannot stand being alone. And that is a problem because you cannot have someone next to you, talking to you, listening to you... all the time. Besides, friends who are here today may not be here tomorrow. They have their own lives and you cannot count on them unconditionally. Therefore you'd better start making friends with the only human being who will never quit you: "yourself". Do you like your own company? Make sure you do, because this is the only presence that will always be... present in your life.

No Judging

Judging other people is never a good idea. Why? Because, when you do, you are most probably wrong. Why? Because you judge according to your principles, which might greatly differ from theirs. Should you then always agree with them? Not at all. You have the right to your own ideas as their have the right to theirs. So? So, it's ok for you to disagree on, or not appreciate something they say or do. But the "person" is not their words or actions. Therefore... go ahead and say, "What he/she did is bad" (or unfair or...) instead of saying "He/she is bad" (or unfair or...).

Complaining

It is so easy to complain, isn't it? But... how willing are you to do something about it? Complaining doesn't take any effort while doing something compels you to decide to change something in your life. There is always an action you can take to make things better. If you examine your situation carefully, you might realize that part of what you are complaining about depends on or is caused by your own behavior. If you are used to dump all responsibilities on someone else, review your position in all honesty. Then choose if you prefer to be a complainer or a problem-solver. 

Special Lenses

Are you convinced that the world around you is exactly and only as you see it? Imagine you had a pair of sunglasses with colored lenses: in this case you would see the world according to their color, all green or red or blue... That might probably reflect your inner mood but it would also be boring. Instead, visualize sunglasses that allowed you to see the world not according to your interpretation but according to the way it really "is". Can you accept the possibility that such image might be different from the one you are used to seeing?

Your Role

Shakespeare said the the world is a stage and that each of us has to play a role. Right. We all agree, don't we? But now a question arises: who determines the role that each of us has to play? According to Positive Thinking, "we" write, direct and play our own roles. But... do we really? Are we actually that "independent"? You and they (whoever else) may be sure you are. I, personally - after careful observation - wouldn't swear on that. Too many stimuli are given you, too much conditioning subdues you, too much technology is offered to you, too many solicitations attack you from all sides. How can you still believe that the "role" you play is freely chosen, is your own creation?

Fight Your Battle

When you strongly want something, it is very hard to find the patience to wait until you reach your goal, especially when you, deep inside, believe that all you efforts may be useless and you will never fulfill your dream. But it would be even harder to give it up altogether because, in so doing, you "throw in the towel" and accept to lose a battle that you haven't even attempted to fight. Failing is a possibility, but feeling a loser is a choice.